Saturday, 17 March 2012

Healthy Vagina

Have you ever felt that feeling of emptiness?  As physical beings it is natural for us to seek a physical connection and intimacy within a relationship.  If our sexual needs are suppressed this could cause an imbalance within our emotional and physical needs and be detrimental to our health.

There are many single ladies out there who are "Cancer Warriors" fighting to hold onto life a little longer and searching for intimacy as nature intended.  There are many links made to the fact that a healthy sex life has a profound positive effect on your wellbeing.  But these ladies must not get lost in their search to settle for a sexual encounter that will leave them feeling empty. 
For a relationship to last in a healthy way both partners must feel a pureness in the exchange of energies during intimacy. When two compatible people come together, entwining their physical and spiritual beings together in a sexual expression then the exchange of energies can be overwhelmingly beautiful.  If you choose to give yourself in an intimate way to a partner who feeds from your loving energy but does not return it, then that feeling of emptiness will get deeper and deeper which may exasperate a feeling of loneliness within the relationship.  Sometimes in life you may find a partner where the connection is so powerful and beautiful but, out of the blue, with no explanation they decide to end it.  This can be an extremely painful time and you must make sure that within the emotional hurt you will be feeling that you do not lose sense of who you are. If you lose a sense of your true essence then this can open the way for disease.

Breast cancer treatment is ruthless on the female body.  Many of us are thrown into an early menopause and then given drugs to inhibit the natural production of our female hormones that are essential to the healthy balance of our bodies.  We know of the obvious side affects such as  lethargy and changes in body temperature but one of the most unspoken areas that it affects is the vagina.  Whether you have cancer or not as a woman you must keep your vagina healthy and very few doctors will prompt a discussion on this with you.  One of the best ways is to have sex to keep the walls of the vagina healthy by keeping it moisturised and maintaining the elasticity.  So you ladies out there with a partner are lucky, well as long as it is a healthy relationship.  Now, those of you who are single, well you need to keep up the maintenance.  So as much as you follow a skin care regime to your face and body you also need to take care of your intimate lady bits.

The fall in estrogen levels due to the cancer treatment can cause the tissue of the vagina to become thinner and this causes painful sex, but it can be rectified.   

There is a non-hormonal vaginal moisturiser called Replense.  If you are a cancer patient you may be able to  get this on prescription.  Aloe vera gel is also very good to use as a lubricant and it has powerful healing properties, check first to make sure you are not allergic to it.  To keep the vaginal tract healthy it needs to be stimulated.    Vaginal dilators are a safe way to self treat this condition. Talk to your doctor about it you may be able to get them on prescription or here is a link to buy your own
 “Designed in conjunction with psychosexual therapists, Amielle Comfort vaginal dilators help women to familiarise themselves with their body and build confidence at a pace that they decide suits them best.”

When cancer challenges your femininity it takes an extreme amount of courage to enter into a new intimate relationship.  But when cancer becomes life limiting then it can seem that your prospects are reduced because too many people are conditioned to look too far into the future instead of enjoying the now, and potential partners can be put off.  You must not collapse into a sense of “Who would want me?” and open yourself up to negative energies. You must also be aware of what sex means to you.  Having cancer can make us feel emotionally fragile and we benefit from close bonding relationships, so until you are ready for a sexual relationship, keep your vagina healthy! 

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Monday, 5 March 2012

Pure Happiness

Happiness is one of those emotional experiences that many of us enjoy feeling, it lifts your spirits and gives you energy and it has the power to override feelings of sorrow that you manifest. So why do you not feel happy all the time if it is so good?

 All of your emotions are personal constructs that generate from your brain and so sometimes the happy feeling is not able to mature and last because it is blocked by the ego the “I am”.
You are controlled by your ego; the same egocentric force that can give you arrogance can also make you feel inadequate.  When you have a life limiting illness it takes a lot of courage and faith to believe and trust yourself because this is when you realise you are alone in the sense that your frame of mind is the only thing that will make or break you, and it is controlled by you. 
Our Western way of living conditions our egos to create attachments.  We attach ourselves to people for fear of being alone; we pursue money relentlessly for fear of insecurity without it. Security does not really exist because the future is unknown so best not to spend your life depending on one thing.  There is also no point in stressing over things that are not that important. So what if my bedroom is messy, I will tidy it when it gets to the point that I cannot find my red lipstick?  (Like yesterday!) Sometimes when we desperately want something we seem to push it further away from us. Maybe this is because our true sense of self is not fully formed, so we only experience snippets of happiness, that our perception of true happiness can only be felt in a dream, it is something to strive for but the “Happy Ever Afters” only exist in movies and fairy stories.

 Have you ever been in a rush driving somewhere and you hit all the red traffic lights but on the days when you have plenty of time all the traffic lights are green?  This phenomenon is termed “The Law of Detachment”.  In order to successfully attract something you must detach yourself from the outcome.  To be attached to your goal is giving power to it, so when you are looking outside yourself to find fulfilment from other sources then you are giving the power away.

I have lived my life the way society expected me to, I have always worked and achieved a BSc with the Open University while bringing up two children on my own, and now I am terminally ill, so it’s time for me to take a different approach. I know I have a long way to go but the purpose of life is growth, I do not want to stagnate I want to keep my energies flowing and in a positive way. We are magnetic and we draw people and situations to us in the way that we feel.   I need to channel my energies into developing my own goals of happiness but before I can do that I need to de-clutter the destructive conditioning in my brain and allow myself to get to know pure happiness. 

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